The Holidays with Lydia

319834176_72e539770a_mThe facility where she is in hospice had a holiday party for all the residents. Initially, we hadn’t planned to go, but one of her caregivers the Sunday before encouraged us to come, so we reversed our RSVP in time and went.

It was the best family gathering we had had since the hospital right after she got out of the ICU in March. She was a little agitated at first, but after one of the caregivers took her to the restroom past the waiting crowd, she settled down and was able to enjoy the dinner and dessert.

We were able to observe in the dining hall how good the caregivers were with everyone. Truly a difficult job, but they were caring, helpful and showed genuine, cheerful attitudes, even with difficult residents.

We were so glad that her caregiver encouraged us to come. She said the family dinner event was nice. The truth is, it was more than that. Way more.

We are so grateful that she’s with these caregivers.

Caregiving is a very difficult job, but these people are able to figure out how to handle so many unique situations, they are the unsung heroes in the medical field. In the past year, we’ve seen some apathetic caregivers, openly hostile caregivers who need to be doing something else for a living, and a few good ones.

This place she’s in now has many good caregivers, and we were able to see them in action with a huge room of tables filled with people and their families. Not all are sick like Lyda–most are in the assisted living section–but you could see their attitudes with everyone, and they weren’t faking it.

This past year has been a difficult one for our entire family, but especially for Lydia. It was good to see her get to enjoy herself a little like she used to, and to have a nice dinner with her family. I think that was a huge relief for our parents, too, to see her calm, and to be a little more like what she was before this illness started hurting her so much.

Thanks for everyone’s support this year.